Thoughts About Vulnerability

We want closeness. We want accountability. We want deep, true, relationships. But where do these relationships have their start? With one person. One person opens their heart. One person shares their dreams. One person admits to problems and failures and fears. One person steps out on the thin ice of a relationship, becomes vulnerable, says 'I trust you.' Maybe that one person is you.

Sometimes, you gather your courage into both hands, take the step of vulnerability...and the whole world slides out from beneath you. Your trust is thrown back into your face, your dreams are scorned, your weaknesses exploited. You are hurt, and frightened, and you retreat, vowing never to do that again.

But it is not long until you feel the tug. You look into another person's eyes, and think you can see a kindred soul glimmering in the depths. You listen to another person's voice, and hear the ragged edge of pain and fear beneath their smoothly confident words. You see someone who needs closeness and love and trust. And you know, you just know, that you are being called to do that again. 

You are fully aware of what might happen...but you also know that you will not be able to live with yourself if you don't make another try. So, you gather your courage, take a deep breath, and step out onto the thin ice. And then you experience it: The miracle of mutual trust. Of two hearts and minds that understand and rely on each other, two mouths that will speak the truth to each other, and two souls that bow together in humble worship of the same God.

And you know that you have found a lasting friend.